Welcome to The Secret, Book & Scone Society

Is something on your mind? Is life driving you crazy?

Is it time you indulged in a little Shelf-Care?

 

Maybe a Bibliotherapist can help!

 

Welcome to The Secret, Book & Scone Society

Is something on your mind? Is life driving you crazy?

Is it time you indulged in a little Shelf Care?

 

Maybe a Bibliotherapist can help!

 

Do you need answers for a pressing issue? How about a literary solution? You’re invited to share your questions, issues, ailments, and grievances in need of a storybook solution!

 

Just pour yourself cup of tea and let bookstore owner Nora Pennington tackle life’s pesky problems!

 

Beginning November 1, 2017, Ellery will be sharing a new, weekly advice column with responses from Nora. Every Monday a person will be selected to help from letters submitted to www.YourBookRx.com and then prescribed a book specifically to address that inquiry. Both the question and answer will be posted to THE BIBLIOTHERAPIST IS IN! Section of www.YourBookRx.com, the Official Ellery Adams Newsletter, and to the Ellery Adams Facebook page: facebook.com/ElleryAdamsWritesMysteries.

 

Dear Nora,

 

I'm struggling with grief right now.  My dear husband, passed away in July and it has been a sad time for me - I know it gets better but it’s been difficult. How does one move forward after something like this?

 

Grieving Wife

 

 

This Week’s Bibliotherapy Session:

Dear Grieving Wife,

 

You shared a life and a heart with another person. That person is now gone. All loss is hard, but yours has left you with a hole the size of the universe. That your experience has been difficult is probably an understatement. It’s probably knocked you flat. Unfortunately, grief doesn’t have an expiration date. And grief is a thief. It steals all the color and joy from your life. It clouds the memories of your loved one—those precious moments that brought you happiness. For as long as it takes, you need to allow yourself to be in the grief. Allow yourself the chance to cry at the grocery store because you see a food your husband used to love. Cry at a red light when a man who looks like him crosses the street. Get a copy of Joan Didion’s A Year of Magical Thinking so you’ll know that you’re not alone. When you’re done with feeling such intense grief, you’re ready for a dose of hope. I recommend two books: Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White and Mitch Albom’s The Five People You Meet in Heaven.

 

 

 

 

 

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PAST BIBLIOTHERAPY SESSIONS:

 

Hi Nora,

I'm crushing hardcore on a boy from school. Seriously, he is everything I’ve ever wanted. We've been best friends since Kindergarten, but he just asked me to help set him up with another girl. She’s pretty, smart, and popular and I feel like she’s more in his league than I am. What can I do to make him want to ask me out instead of her?

—Out of League Love

 

Dear Out of League Love,

You obviously matter to this guy. Look how long you’ve been friends! I wonder if you’ve ever told him how you feel about him though. It’s scary to be that vulnerable, but if you want him to see you in a different light, you’ll need some literary courage. Try reading Bridget Jones’s Diary by Helen Fielding and Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice for examples of how other women have had the courage to show their true feelings. They both ended up with their dream guys and I hope you find happiness too. And remember, your happiness doesn’t have to be tethered to a guy. You can make your own.

Nora

 

Hi Nora,

There’s nothing my Mom loves more than to spend Saturday mornings picking up inexpensive treasures at area garage sales. However, her house is slowly becoming overrun by her purchases. We’ve set aside time to clean out the clutter together, but what’s the best way to tackle the task without causing issues between us?

—Clutter-free Cindy

 

Hi Cindy,

 

The act of decluttering can be very emotional, for both the person trying to clean out and whoever is helping them. It’s a good idea to consult a few experts in this field, so you might want to grab a copy of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo and The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik Wiking before you embark on this activity. If you and your mom read these books together, the clean out process will probably be much smoother clean.

Nora

 

Hi Nora,

Until last month, I loved my job. I’m doing what I always dreamed of doing and I’ve always gotten along with my coworkers. I even liked my boss, but she was recently transferred and my new boss is a nightmare! She is really critical and expects people to work at all hours. She might not have a life, but I do! I don’t want to quit because I worked too hard to get where I am, but I can’t deal with this woman. How do I handle a boss who’s both mean and super demanding?

—Fed-Up at Work

 

Dear Fed-Up,

Your description of your boss reminds me of the fictional character, Miranda Priestly from The Devil Wears Prada by Lauren Weisberger. Maybe you should take a page from another disgruntled employee’s book. Andrea Sachs puts up with a slew of unreasonable requests, but she finds a way to manage her difficult boss. Not only that, but she also figures out what she truly wants in life. I hope you find the same kind of success.

Nora

 

Dear Nora,

I’m having a tough time. Between taking care of my kids and my aging parents, there doesn’t seem to be any time for me. Can you give me a book recommendation that’ll act like a vacation from the daily grind?

Yours,

Need a Break

 

Dear Need a Break,

Everyone needs regular self-care, including you. Yes, I can recommend a bookcation read such as Rachel Joyce’s The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Frye, but I’d also suggest that you find time each day to seek a little quiet. Allow yourself the opportunity to reenergize. To help make this a habit, you might want to check out Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation by Sharon Salzberg.

Nora

 

Dear Nora,

My husband passed away six months ago and my friends and family keep hinting that I should move on. I’m trying to do stay involved in my normal activities, but I don’t feel normal. We were together for over twenty years and I feel lost without him. Can you recommend something to help me cope with my grief?

Missing My Other Half

 

Dear Missing My Other Half,

 I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Of course, you don’t feel normal. And there’s a reason you don’t feel ready to move on. Grief doesn’t have an expiration date. That’s why, why you lose someone who was important to you, it’s called a loss. There are lots of writers who identify with your experience and give you guidance, but I think you need a dose of hope mixed in with your grief, so I recommend you read Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White and Mitch Albom’s The Five People You Meet in Heaven.

Nora

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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